Consulting - Syracuse

After two years of working for the Consulting Company in Tampa, I left. They had been purchased by NYNEX and was being absorbed and any chances for a career and promotion were history.

I called a friend of mine (he had interviewed me for the job in Tampa) who was doing some Consulting in Syracuse, NY, I had a job that afternoon. My wife and I drove to the train station in Sanford, FL, put the car on the train and went to our cabin. It was afternoon, around 3:00 or so and for some reason we we're HORNY!! Now the windows on the rain are smoked, if you concentrate you can see into the cabins, I told her no one could see us because of the tinting...we fucked like rabbits. I don't know if she believed me or not but we had a great afternoon. I hope people saw us.

We arrived in Lorton, VA and drove to Syracuse where she stayed for a few days before flying back to Florida. Part of the agreement was that I could fly home every weekend when possible and in the beginning that's the way it was, I was home on Friday evening and departed for Syracuse on Monday morning. I found an apartment in Baldwinsville, NY, got some furniture and set up housekeeping.

It wasn't long and I started feeling lonely so I started reading the local rag that ads for singles. I found a couple who were looking for a man to join them, I wrote, they wrote and we met. This is when I found out about BDSM and I learned a lot, we never were able to make things work but now I was really interested in the D/s lifestyle with a bit of bondage thrown in for grins.

I met a woman, divorced with a child and we dated for about a month before she capitulated. She fucked like a mink, gave tremendous blow job's and she swallowed and cleaned up. We probably saw each other for 4 or 5 months and then she started with when are you moving in (I'm not), have you thought about a long term relationship (No I haven't) and my little girl needs a dad (she has one). I ended it and it wasn't pretty but it was OVER!

I stayed on the straight and narrow for a few months but then I strayed again.

I worked with two women and they were both nice. One was heavily involved with another guy on the project and I had designs on the other, a beautiful redhead. Her name was Eileen and she stood about 5'9” in bare feet and had a womanly figure, probably 36D with curves in all the right places. I had decided to not try and not pursue her as I worked with her everyday, she knew my wife and shitting where you eat is not a good idea.

First for her............almost

I had learned to sail a little bit in Florida and I loved it. I went looking for a sailboat and found a 22' MacGregor cheap and started working on the interior so that if we wanted we could spend the night on it. I kept it in the marina on Bayou Liberty and we sailed it quite a bit on Lake Ponchatrain. We decided we wanted a bigger boat so we purchased a 28.5' Hunter, brand new and it was a great boat for us to sail on Mississippi Sound and in the Gulf of Mexico.

We had become close friends with a couple that I worked with and we would invite them to go with us on weekend sails and jaunts out to the barrier islands. One lovely day the ladies were sunbathing topless and Chip and I started kissing my wife who was laying across the cabin top. She complained that it wasn't fair, two against one, but she never said stop. While this was going on, his wife was in the cockpit watching and fingering herself, I had high hopes that what I had wanted for a long time was going to happen.....NOT! I don't remember exactly what happened, but I think the autopilot kicked off and I had to go back to hand steering, we never did re-create that moment, it was gone.

Months later we (the four of us) decided to take a long weekend in Panama City, I had connections to get a rental condo cheap for a weekend so off we went. On Saturday evening we picked up a couple of XXX movies and I though, well maybe this time. My wife fell asleep but I was horny. Chip and I started on his wife and it wasn't long before I was eating her pussy and she was sucking his dick, then my wife woke up. Pissed doesn't even begin to describe what she was, it took about two months for her to get over it, I don't think she ever forgave me and I think she remembers it to this day.

I had learned all I was going to learn at Martin Marietta, I wasn't going to be promoted any further and I was being pretty vocal about the direction they were taking, needless to say I started looking. We had sold the boat when I started looking for work in Florida and got a good price for it, I wasn't complaining. I landed a job with a consulting company in Tampa and we found a nice place to rent in Palm Harbor, just across the bay and a 30 minute drive from the house.

Consolidation of years

Note: I'm going to group the next few years together with just some highlights of my career and life. I promise I won't leave out any of the good stuff.

We arrived in O'Fallon, IL home to Scott AFB, IL although I think the base is really claimed by Belleville, IL. I had a great boss who took me under his wing and introduced me to computers. I went to school learned programming languages, learned about databases and became a sponge for anything having to do with a computer.

The Air Force and I had a disagreement and I got out of the Air Force and we moved to Estes Park, CO, we lived there for a couple of years and then moved back to Illinois where I landed a job in a local company, I think they are out of business now. I worked at a couple of companies in the Peoria area doing computer programming and working on my trade.

I hated Peoria, I went to a couple of years of grade school and completed High School there. Peoria is 20 years behind the times, always has been, always will be. I hated High School, most of the people, just everything in general..........I don't know why, it was where I got laid the first time and received my first blow job.

I applied for a job with Martin Marietta (now Lockheed Martin) at the NASA Computer Center in Slidell, LA. Got the job and we moved.

We loved Louisana, the food was tremendous, the people were nice it was a great place to work and play. I worked there for about 4 years and then I turned 40, the FOUR ZERO, and it was middle aged crazy time. I took a job working at Central Steel and Wire in Chicago, I was now a Consultant doing VTAM work on a big (at the time) IBM computer.

I was lonesome, flying home about once a month and I missed my wife and family, but being a consultant you never know where you'll be next or for how long. I met a young lady one evening at a social for single people, I was by myself so I was single. We did the big nasty that night and I never saw here again, she called but she had provided exactly what I needed....pussy and a blow job.

After about 6 months I get a call from my wife, someone had broken into the house and scared the crap out of her and the kids. No damage as she screamed, the dog barked and she pulled out the .44 magnum pistol. I quit and drove back to Louisiana where I went back to work for Martin Marietta.

Germany

Germany!! I got off the airplane in Frankfurt and had a car waiting to drive me to Stuttgart, this was unusual for an E-5 in the Air Force. I got to Hq Eucom (Patch Barracks) got settled in, processed in and checked in at my new duty assignment. The NCOIC asked me, “What are you doing here, and where did you come from, and how did you get HERE?” I was confused as was he so after a bit of chatting and looking at my orders the NCOIC explained a few things to me. Assignment at Hq EUCOM Flight Operations was an assignment that you were selected for AFTER being recommended by others. I explained very carefully that I had volunteered for Europe on my 'Dream Sheet' and here I was, they did have a slot open, right? It seems that a slot was open and I had filled it unbeknownst to them, I knew how it happened but I wasn't ratting the guy out at Personnel who had apparently cut a few corners.

Two weeks after arriving I had secure on-base quarters and my wife and kiddo's were on there way to stay to me and a hopefully long tour in Germany.

We had a great time, we went to London (wife and I), learned how to snow ski in Germany and Austria (all of us and the kids still ski) and camped our way through a lot of Europe. We camped in Germany, Austria, Switzerland, Italy, Holland, Spain and in general had a great time.

The only potential for a little something came one evening and I didn't even recognize it. I couple that bowled in the same league as we asked us to be there bowling partners in the summer league, we declined as we had already hooked up with another couple. Not that much longer we were going to the bowling banquet or the season that had just completed and the lady of this couple came up to me and told me how nice I looked all dressed up and that it was too bad we couldn't have been paired together. It wasn't that much longer that my wife told me that she (the other woman) had been shipped back to the US as she was fucking everybody that entered their home. I honest to GOD never recognized the fact that she was coming on to me.

Four years of having a great time came to a close as we had to come back to the US, we didn't want to leave but due to personal circumstances we had to go back. I had orders for Hq MAC (Military Airlift Command) at Scott AFB, IL.

Florida

Homestead AFB, FL...the new assignment. We arrived in Homestead after a leave enroute to visit my mom, dad had died while we were in Japan. I was working in Flight Operations for the local squadron and had LtCol as a great boss. Met a couple of 1^st Lieutenants who were local pilots flying T-33's and in general just doing time. We all played golf (except the LtCol) and we had a standing Sunday morning tee time of 7:30, it was an ideal place to hang your hat and just go with the flow.....but it's not where I wanted to be, I wanted Europe.

I called the Personnel Center at Randolph AFB, TX and spoke to the guy who handled assignments for my career field. I told him what I wanted and he said, here is my home address, send me a letter with your desires and I'll see what I can do.” I sent the letter and withing 90 days I had orders, Hq EUCOM in Stuttgart, Germany, we were excited.

Sexually, nothing was happening outside the ordinary, man, wife, children stuff. I was a true straight arrow without any curve at all.

Okinawa

After the US Military (primarily the Air Force) with jet fighters were forced to leave Japan we went to Okinawa. We (the US Government) had already given Okinawa back to the Japanese an they were in the throes of reversion. Some of the local people didn't want to revert back to Japan, others did, all I knew is that we loved it on the island and didn't really want to go back to the US.

Nothing of any consequence happened on the island, I started learning to fly and changed career fields to something that I enjoyed a bit more. We played a lot of golf, watched the kids grow up and all in all enjoyed a one year tour before heading back to the US.

A Brief Intermission

I was working and going to school, she was working and we had a new baby girl, money was somewhere between tight and non-existent. Her Mom was watching the baby and we were doing good just trying to help her parents put food on the table. I decided that his wasn't going to get it so I went down to the recruiter and re-enlisted in US Air Force.

It didn't take long and I was back in Air Force Blue and on my way to Japan, leaving my wife, baby daughter behind until I could get acceptable housing. The first thing I did was buy a car, secondly I signed up for housing. Now here is how housing works in the military. You have on-base and off-base housing (in the Army is called a post, not a base) and the housing office maintains a list, the number of bedrooms you get depends on the number of dependents and there sex, remember this it will come into play in about 6 years.....more or less. We qualified for a two bedroom house off-base and the same for on-base housing. Your placement on the list is based on years of service, rank, date of rank and I can't remember if there was another qualifier.

I process in and start doing work stuff (it's boring so I won't go into it) and I meet some people and start going to the NCO Club....where I meet a school teacher. She was very nice, funny and fun to be with, but it went nowhere as the chemistry just wasn't there. 6 months passed, at least I think it was six months and lo and behold I got the word...I had a house off base. You've seen the old Japanese movies, old wooden houses, sliding doors, hardwood floors with tatami mats.....yep, that was what I got for a mere $50.00/month including electricity and water. I called home said get your shit together, we have a place too live, she was in my arms in about a month and pregnant the day after...I swear she was.

Remember the movie MASH, how about Woodstock? We were in Japan when this all happened. Remember the Pueblo or the Navy EC-121 that was shot down by North Korea? No, then you really too young to be reading this...just kidding. When the aforementioned happened I and my crew found our asses in South Korea..AGAIN!! You see I went to Korea every 8 weeks and I was there for 4 weeks...kinda sucked and Korea is COLD in the winter and HOT in the summer, I don't think they have Spring and Fall. Do you remember Vietnam, a little police action going on? I was in Japan and Korea, beat the hell out of the alternative.

A couple that we were friends with and that we used to hang out with moved to another house, still off-base. He had to go to Korea and asked if I would help his wife do some moving, I did, and we didn't. I think she really wanted to and I wanted to as well...but as the saying goes, “don't shit in your own mess kit.” We didn't and the friendship tapered off, she went back to the US and he finished his tour in Japan. For four years I was a straight arrow, curved in places but overall I was straight.

Indescretion Number One

We had been married around two years and had just moved back to Florida from Illinois where the company I had worked for had filed for bankruptcy, The year was 1968 and it was Spring. I was enrolled in college and working part-time as a draftsman for a company that made mobile homes. She was working as a Cosmetologist, we were living with her parents and trying to make ends meet. The part time job ended and I got a job delivering orange juice, you do whatever it takes to survive.

The damn Psych. Course is where it all started. I had been as faithful as a lap dog, never strayed, I don't even think I looked at the menu, I always knew where I would be eating. A brief aside if I may. My wife at the time of our wedding was 5'4” tall, 118 lbs, 34B, blonde hair and absolutely gorgeous. This Psych course was great, the Prof was great it was all good, but heavy. I sat next to a woman who as having some difficulty and we chatted at break about what was going on in class and decided to meet over coffee to further discuss the points she was having an issue with. I met her one day for lunch at her place of employment, she was the executive secretary to the Mayor of the city, no I'm not naming the city. I met the Mayor and we chatted for a bit and then his secretary and I went off to lunch, and we discussed Psych. Class.

Afternoon meetings were getting tough for me because of work so we started meeting at night after class, rut-roh!! We met at her apartment as she had no money and I had less so we were on the cheap. One thing led to another and it wasn't long and a kiss led to more kissing and even more kissing and pretty soon our hands started to roam. It wasn't long and she was naked, I was naked and then she told me.........WHOOPS! It's that time of the month, at this point, being young, virile and with a hard-on that could drive nails, I was not to be denied, YEAH, RIGHT. I got her off by playing with her clit and she gave me a hand-job. I went home, continued to see her in class but we never crossed that line again.

I don't remember how I felt after having her get me off, was I scared, ashamed, excited, I just can't recall. That was my very first time that I strayed, I wish it had been my last!

An Introduction

It's said that confession is good for the soul, I don't think any amount of confessing will help me but maybe this confession will help others.

• About Me -

I am 67 years old soon to be 68, married for almost 46 years to same wonderful woman who is 66 years old. My wife puts up with and I don't know why, she must love me a ton and I don't deserve it but even with all of my transgressions and faults I truly love her. I had open heart surgery at 58, plus numerous other surgeries through out my life, I am hard on my body.

I spent quite a few years in the US Air Force and finally found my calling in the world of Information Technology. The last 18 years of my career were spent as a consultant either working for another company and towards the end working for myself. I was on the road all the time, fly out to the client site on Monday morning and back home to wife on Friday evening. The money was good, the challenges were fun, the travel sucked. I was lonely and that was just part of the problem, I enjoy people, all people and the challenges that people present. I'm weird and I know it.

Cheating on your spouse by some is due to sexual issues, she is always tired, he is always tired, she is/has become frigid, he isn't interested in her anymore. He wants to experiment, she doesn't, she wants to experiment and he doesn't. Finally, lack of communication when it comes to the marriage bed, she has desires and fantasies and won't tell him and he has the same and won't spill his guts either.

My issues/problems are just that, mine, and I didn't deal with them very well, too bad I found out so late in life. As I write about my indiscretions/affairs I hope you will see what I was looking for and that you will learn from my experiences.

If you to send me an email and ask about specifics, then please do, I'll respond to all.